I have an old Annie Herring record that I’ve had since I was a kid. She wrote a song called “Hand on Me” that is beautiful. I probably can’t post the words because of copyright laws but would encourage you to find the lyrics at lyrics.com.
When I was a parole/probation agent I dealt with hurting families on a daily basis. They were angry, frustrated and hurting. They were unable to fix their adult loved one and looked to the criminal justice system for relief. They were discouraged when they didn’t see a change.
It’s easy to blame workers, God or ourselves when we painfully watch a loved one self destruct. Some even complete treatment programs whether religious or self help and continue to relapse.
I’m not a licensed or certified counselor. I’m just sharing my observation from seven years in the criminal justice field. There are no pat answers. Find comfort in knowing that God has his hands on each of us. Trust him to work in the life of your loved one. Do what you need to do to have peace in your own home even if it means a time out. Pray daily. Even though it’s hard, don’t blame workers and trust them to do their job.
One day, maybe years away, something or someone will impact your loved one to make a change. I’ve seen it happen in the lives of others.
I hope this helps. I’ve been the worker that parents were angry with but I’ve also rejoiced with clients who had a breakthrough. If you are experiencing a painful time, seek out resources that may get you through it if needed. God bless.
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